love

what is love? living in university, seeing so many couples, made me raise this question. i am not that much of a philosophical guy in front of my friends, but i asked one about it. he said that love is a feeling you get by knowing a person. and i replied with so basically you are attracted by the other person's ideology, personality, and behavior, so at its core, it is attraction. he then denied and said that it's more than just attraction, it's a deep feeling. so that means it's a deep attraction. my argument might be childish, but that's what i said.

i think the modern definition of love is quite selfish. i think love is not what you can have for only one person. why can't you or i treat all people around us with the same care and love, we give to that one special person. i think the difference between kindness and niceness explains this. being kind means to be genuinely kind from the heart, being indiscriminate and treating everyone with the same level of kindness. type of kindness varies from person to person. meanwhile niceness, is just the appearance, when you appear to be doing some kind work, but you aren't genuinely doing it.

i don't know anything about love, but i have seen my mum loving me. i have seen my love for my family. i have felt my dad's tough love for all of us. and that's unconditional. my mum will still love me, even if i do some really bad shit. my dad's going to scold me and then support me if i do something wrong. they don't judge me for the person i am. they just love me. and i think, that's what love is.

love is the unconditional caring and treating people with respect with no benefits in mind. and we all as humans, should be able to love the strangers we meet in our life, the birds that are flying, the winds that breeze, everything.

but maybe, because of all the cunningness of today's generation, we have become somewhat skeptical. people try to know as much as possible about the next person, before making a decision of being friends or not. when you treat the people you know right, that's niceness. when you treat strangers right, that's kindness. and we should all be strive to become kind first. from deep within heart.

going off topic, when i am the most relaxed, when i feel the best, i imagine the scenario, that i am in a lush green park, beneath a tree, the sun is warm, and the breezes are cold. and i am just lying in the shadow of the tree, enjoying life. and that feeling is what i love. so, i promise, from today, i will be treating everyone with love and kindness. be that warm sun for everybody.